Girls Kissing Girls- "Oh My!"
Thursday, October 15, 2009 at 2:36 AM “Prove It On Me Blues” is the story of a woman who is in conflict with her female interest. Various instances of the song imply us to the idea that queer relationships existed in the time period of 1923-1924 in which the song was recorded. This however maybe surprising to some considering that these are topics rarely discussed when it comes to “American History.” Sexual orientation between same sex beings has recently become “appropriate” to discuss openly over the dinner table. As argued by Davis, “the blues was a privileged site in which women were free to assert themselves publicly as sexual beings.” Not only did the blues provide a free space for African American women to speak about personal sexual encounters but it served as a platform to challenged ideas around gender roles.
Rainey’s lyrics are powerful in that she is not afraid to voice that she is a powerful woman that can tend to a female just as a male can and is unashamed about. She even boasts about the way she talks to females “just like any old man.” Her tone in this lyric is one of a “hahahaha bet you didn’t know I could do that?!” Rainey is almost daring someone to say something to her about it or questions her actions in her decision to play the role of what is normally understood to be the role of the male species. The comfort level that Rainey has with speaking on this topic is very present in her tone of voice while singing it as well as in her lyrics. What makes the song stronger however is the lack of male presence in the song. Not one time in the song are we introduced to male character that has any say so or welcomed opinion about the main woman’s involvement with someone of her same sex.
Though Rainey’s attitude about may seem a bit bold, a few of today’s contemporary artist can be found speaking on the same exact topics however in a more or less welcoming setting. Female artist such as rapper Nicki Minaj openly speak about there sexuality just as Rainey did with lyrics like, “She so fuckin fine that I touched her up again, told her last time she can bring her other friend,” from “Girls Kissing Girls” by Nicki Minaj. In contrast, however, lesbian relationships seem to be hyper sexualized, by male artist and other matriarchal controlled media. Many male perspective songs and other forms of media serve as a tool toward this hyper-sexualization by inviting themselves and creating what is called a ménage à trios, or threesome. For example, in Lil Wayne’s recent song “Every Girl” featuring Drake, the line “are any of ya’ll into girls, lesbiahonest (let’s be honest),” almost takes away the ownership lesbian women should have over their identity. In comparison however I like to think that despite time differences and generation gaps that both Minaj and Rainey were just requesting acceptance of loving whomever they desire to love.

Reader Comments (4)
Those of you that wrote about “Prove It On Me,” you all felt that the song was definitely an expression of an empowered woman. Some of you even feel that she is so empowered as to feel comfortable expressing her homosexual feelings, by dressing and acting like a man. Do you feel this song expresses an empowered lesbian or just an empowered straight woman? Or is that even an important distinction here? I liked the comparison that the following posts made with modern portrayals in pop music of lesbian relationships which are less about the women and more about men liking the idea of two girls together. What do you think? Is modern pop culture limited in the way it expresses female/female love? Do you think this song was controversial when it was released? Please respond to one of the two posts below to add your thoughts to the discussion.
http://benleedscarson.com/ma-rainey-and-bessie-smith/girls-kissing-girls-oh-my.html
http://benleedscarson.com/ma-rainey-and-bessie-smith/prove-it-on-me-blues-1.html
I totally agree with you on the point that Ma Rainey and Minaj are communicating love in their songs. I feel that when women talk about being interested in other women in their songs it is more about love, and the acceptance of that love than anything else. The only problem I have with Nicki Minaj's song is that Gucci Main is in it. He gets to speak first about girls kissing girls, and he also gets to be part of the love making with Minaj and another girl. When a man enters the equation in a song about female love then it is no longer JUST about female love: it is about how a man has dominance over female love.
As you said in your post: "What makes the song stronger however is the lack of male presence in the song. Not one time in the song are we introduced to male character that has any say so or welcomed opinion about the main woman’s involvement with someone of her same sex." This what makes it stronger, and this element of a song about female love without a man is not something that has been present in popular music in recent times. I found it interesting how you brought up a song by lil' wayne and his feelings on female love, I never would have thought to bring up what a male singer thinks about the subject. I feel when most male singers sing have songs about girls being on girls it is all for the enjoyment of the male, so I don't think it really applies to the empowerment of women and female love.
I feel that the difference between Rainey and Minaj, as well as other popular female artists singing about female love is that Rainey is saying, "I don't need a man, I got a woman," and Minaj is saying "Hey men look at me! I got a woman!" To be an empowered female is not to have acceptance as empowered by a man, it is to feel empowered on your own, so I feel Rainey did a better job with the empowerment thing in this instance.
Wow, what interesting comments. The sexuality and homosexuality of Ma Rainey's lyrics are fascinating, especially put in the cultural/historical context you guys have mentioned. What interests me is Rainey's ability to say such daring things and become such a major, major hit. In the lesbian overtones in her lyrics, she becomes so empowered that she completely rejects men altogether. It's not that she only will have the best men, it's that she won't even have men at all. She can reclaim her sexuality, as the space of early female blues artists often do. She and Bessie Smith both had lesbian relationships (according to Hazel Carby in "It Jus Be's Dat Way Sometime") but I wonder what it would have been like for particularly the white female audience of the time to hear these sexuality-affirming, extremely powerful women sing. Both Bessie Smith and Ma Rainey appear powerful and imposing in stature as well as in attitude, and I would assert that their enormous popularity came from white women being impressed and shocked and even envious of the way these black blues singers could assert themselves, express their sexuality and not take shit from anybody. I also love that it's shocking still today when we really sit down and read the lyrics and hear the spirit in these women's voices. They were pretty badass, you have to admit.
I think it was misunderstood, my mention of lil wayne, in my essay. I was using him as an example to support the idea todays music hyper sexualizes the lesbian relationships. I definently was not trying to use him to say that he empowers women, he does the complete opposite. And I also did address the difference between men being included in the song.
I would definently disagree with you about Nicki Minaj not having ownership over her sexuality and using it to attract male attention. I feel that she is simply a female expression her sexual desires no differently than how artist like Gucci Mane or Lil Wayne. I would argue that Minaj is in no need of attracting male attention. What se has done however thus far, is hold down the title as one of the dopest female rappers in the game at the moment. Remember she is an unsigned artist with record labels constantly knocking at her door, which mean she hasn't been commercialized yet.I do agree that Ma Rainey's song not empowers queer relationships but also demands respect for females in general. If she's changing the game or not Minaj is making a big impact on the hip hop game and culture just as Rainey and Bessie did with R&B.